Queerness, to me, is about far more than homosexual attraction. It’s about a willingness to see all other taboos broken down. Sure, many of us start on this path when we first feel “same sex” or “same gender” attraction (though what is sex? And what is gender? And does anyone really have the same sex or gender as anyone else?). But queerness doesn’t stop there.
This is a somewhat controversial stance, but to me queer means something completely different than “gay” or “lesbian” or “bisexual.” A queer person is usually someone who has come to a non-binary view of gender, who recognizes the validity of all trans identities, and who, given this understanding of infinite gender possibilities, finds it hard to define their sexuality any longer in a gender-based way. Queer people understand and support non-monogamy even if they do not engage in it themselves. They can grok being asexual or aromantic. (What does sex have to do with love, or love with sex, necessarily?) A queer can view promiscuous (protected) public bathhouse sex with strangers and complete abstinence as equally healthy.
Queers understand that people have different relationships to their bodies. We get what it means to be stone. We know what body dysphoria is about. We understand that not everyone likes to get touched the same way or to get touched at all. We realize that people with disabilities may have different sexual needs, and that people with survivor histories often have sexual triggers. We can negotiate safe and creative ways to be intimate with people with HIV/AIDs and other STIs.
Queers understand the range of power and sensation and the diversity of sexual dynamics. We are tops and bottoms, doms and subs, sadists and masochists and sadomasochists, versatiles and switches. We know what we like and don’t like in bed.
We embrace a wide range of relationship types. We can be partners, lovers, friends with benefits, platonic sweethearts, chosen family. We can have very different dynamics with different people, often all at once. We don’t expect one person to be able to fulfill all our diverse needs, fantasies and ideals indefinitely.
Because our views on relationships, sex, gender, love, bodies, and family are so unconventional, we are of necessity anti-assimilationist. Because under the kyriarchy we suffer, and watch the people we love suffering, we are political. Because we want to survive, we fight. We only want the freedom to be ourselves, love ourselves, love each other, and live together. Because we are routinely denied that, we are pissed.
Queer doesn’t mean “don’t label me,” it means “I am naming myself.” It means “ask me more questions if you’re curious” and in the same breath means “fuck off.”
At least, that is what it means to me."
so much yes to this
today’s date is 11/12/13 and that is very satisfying to me
Wow I’m American and I just realized how ridiculous and flip flopped the system is because of the size of unit of measurement wtf
It should be day month year because month day year makes no sense I’m moving to another country
Why do we Americans even use the system we do?
Because it’s easier to sort columns or blocks of information visually at a glance.If 12/15/2013 and 11/16/2013 occur in the same list, you can more quickly parse which one happened before the other, and if you only care about November you can find those dates quickly.
How often do you need to organize a block of dates by which one happened on the 17th day of a month versus which ones happened in November? Honestly, we could say it’s ridiculous and flip-flopped to not have them in order of the lowest range to greatest range (1 to 12, 1 to 31, 1 to 2013 and counting).
Even when records are already organized in order by dates, it’s easier to read and cleaner-looking if the first part of the date isn’t the one that changes every single day.
Also, think about how you look up dates in a paper calendar. Today’s the 15th. Do you flip through a 31 page book until you get to page 15, then find November?
No. You start at November then go to the 15th. You might be saying “But you don’t then go to 2013, so this is nonsense.” But look at how we actually write out the date:
November 15th, 2013.
The comma there is meaningful. This isn’t Medium Thing Little Thing Big Thing. It’s Thing, Clarifying Information. Thing takes the format of (Category Of Thing) (Identifier Of Thing), because when you’re finding something you go by category first.
Also, as with most ^English things that are considered “American”, this format started in the U.K. It was apparently popularized by newspapers. I’m going to go out on a limb and hypothesize that it was because if the date comes first, you’d have to un-set the text for the month potentially every single day, whereas if the month comes first, you’re only changing the day when you change the day. Basically, the same logic for why calendars are organized by month first. Having the thing that changes most often first is inefficient. Having the thing that changes least often (the year) first front-loads the least significant piece of information. So they put the month first as a balanced approach.
alexandraerin dropping knowledge bombs
To add to that, I work in a theater in NYC where a majority of our documents are sorted by date across departments, and it would be REALLY hard to search for when certain events took place if the date came first, as opposed to the month. It just makes it so that searching is faster/more convenient. Newspapers knew where it was at.
no but seriously imagine being a muggleborn wizard at hogwarts and then when you learn to conjure your patronus it turns out to be a pikachu
#and everyone’s like ‘ooooh what sort of magical creature is this’ #meanwhile the muggle borns are laughing their asses off going ‘PIKA! PIKA’ at you #not but srsly how come muggle borns don’t have a super secret club making inside jokes and snarking right back at elitist purebloods
#i fully support this #muggleborns writing with pencils and pens instead of stupid quills #using muggle slang to answer to insults #teaching their housemates about muggle culture and introducing them to tv shows and books and movies #you have no idea how much i want this #hogwarts will always be there to welcome you home
I mean as a person who’s had to integrate in a foreign culture (which is think is similar to how muggle borns would initially feel in the wizarding world) I know how you, despite wanting to become part of the community, seek out people like you by instinct. Tbh, all the European kids in my town would spend at least the first thirty minutes of any conversation with each other talking about how seriously no Communist is like a dirty word here and why don’t they have Kinder eggs in this fucking place is2g. So it makes sense to me that muggle borns would seek each other out and make inside jokes and dude the new Pokèmon came out bloody hell I’ll have to wait for summer to play it ugh and shit please tell me your mum sent you ballpoints again I seriously cannot deal with all this ink I keep staining everything.
Sorry I vomited words on here omg sorry I just realized